put him in rehab.
my friend just got out and hes a totally different
person i swear.
ots the only ways hes gonna stop.

It's not good to smoke period.

And if you have a heart problem, that will only make smoking related health risks worse.

It may just be allergies and the time of the year. When I've smoked in the past it's been short periods of time, and usually when my allergies were acting up. It always seemed to help.

Have you tried different brands, switching to or from menthol, maybe clove? Clove is very good for a sore throat, at least it helped me – all folks are different.

No preaching from from your bro here, I never smoked heavily, mostly for medicinal purposes and about as much as you are smoking.

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Then I got married….. since her dad has smoked several packs a day of unfiltered Camels for decades, no cigarettes for me!

Well, they are supposed to be bad for me. Being hit over the head with heavy furniture was *worse* for me, so I've not done any seasonal or social smoking. lol

i think what some people are worried about is that somehow, gay couples raising children is going to increase the "gayness" in the world…like it will spread or something. yes, that is crazy, i know.

all i can tell you is, gay people can be perfectly good parents. they can raise well-adjusted, happy children. my partner and i are raising three children, and all of them are straight and doing fine so far. so our gayness did not rub off on the kids…

i don't think it matters whether parents are straight or gay…what matters is how much they love their children, and how well they educate them and take care of them.

If i were in your position, i would want to protect my kids first and foremost. You say he's a good dad when not smoking…i could careless about changing other parts of his life if it meant keeping my kids safe. And he should care enough about them to stop. You can't have it both ways. Your kids won't be safe while he's still smoking pot. He can't have this freedom and this part of his own life if you want to be sure you're kids are safe with him. And you won't be sure your kids will be safe if you don't take a stand and get him to come clean.

I would definitely tell him what you're planning and then head to court. What if you didn't choose to go to court and then something happened to one of your kids? Could you forgive yourself for passing your opportunity to protect them? I know i couldn't.

All I can say is, people say that this is the best part of our lives, they are liars. I started smoking cause of stress I went through, plus I kinda gave into peer pressure and the whole status thing.

It generally takes far more than 5 generations to see a response to selection, probably 50 or more. Additionally everyone in the species would need to smoke, not just a person and their descendants. If this scenario were true however, then evolution probably would reduce the negative effects of smoking just as organisms adapt to any other negative environmental factor. Individuals that do acquire resistance to the damages of smoking would be better able to survive and more likely to reproduce, and their offspring would compose a larger fraction of the species in future generations.

Leave them up they cant yell at you because you arent the one in the picture. it is basically just pointin the situation to the police their son is smokin it. so just leave it up and anyway he did start it by puttin his pic up first. so yea leave them.

Yes the world is messed up and MOST of the time it is the parents fault. Those kids learn from their environment and conditioning when they are very young. Its one thing for someone to just not care about their kids, but one unfortunate thing I have noticed with a lot of families is that the parents are forced to work SO MUCH just to get by. Being that they have children usually the school systems or a baby sitter/day care service ends up basically conditioning the child because they learn from the actions of their peers. If the parents are never around because they work all the time how is that child going to look at the parent for discipline or advice or guidance? My father worked like a dog to support our small family and he died way before his time. But my mom was always there. Even if as a friend she was always there. Now I made some messed up choices and I didn't always follow the well beaten path, but I still ended up ok. I am fairly successful but still growing and excelling in life. Some parents are guilty because they don't care. Others are forced to have someone else raise their kid just so they can support them and keep a roof over the families head. It's unfortunate though I have met parents who have kids because they just were not educated about planned parenthood, condoms, STD's, and the actual responsibility of parenthood. I think a lot of children who are forced to watch their younger siblings really learn a lot about what it is like to care for another person and the responsibility it requires (it's not like a dog or a cat or a hermit crab, we're talking a walking, talking human being.) I think children with older siblings that have "bad" parents have a better chance at life then the ones who look to their peers for a role model. It's unfortunate but hopefully this world can correct itself before it’s too late. Situation wise, it may already be too late. Sorry for the long drawn out babble this topic is something I rant about every day. I don't want my kids to grow up not knowing right and wrong, not knowing their parents, and I definitely do NOT want my kids growing up doing bad things in the streets or having kids while they are still kids! Parents all over the world need to wake up!

This may sound brutal, but take her to the cancer ward of a hospital and let her see for herself what she is doing not only to herself but the passive smoking she is doing around her children, ask her is that what she wants for your kids, if not, then either smoke outside or not at all, I cared for my mother who died from lung cancer for over a year and its no picnic, then my father after he had open heart surgery and a stroke, its not funny at all and she needs to see what happens, both have passed on due to smoking, if that doesn't get her to stop, then nothing will!

No. Don't believe the lies.

Yeah… unfortunately, worse things than we had to deal with are becoming "second nature" for children at school nowadays. It's so sad, but devastatingly true.

I think it stems from the whole situation that it seems children are just given "instant gratification" in today's generation, and therefore expect more (and expect to get away with more), without having to "pay for it" whether it be material things, or behavioral issues.

I think with people's more "modern" views on discipline for children are just becoming more "accepting." I think people have to be really careful with giving children too many luxuries, and too many freedoms of choice.

And, ultimately, I think that's where these behavioral problems come from. The more children push the envelope, the more others want to see how much they can get away with (for whatever personal reason for them that might be), and they just seem to get away with more…

Or, at least that's my take on it.

Well i am in the same situation. Our daughter is 12months old. He lives with his dad (I have my own place). They smoke cigarettes in the house and pot, its a bit of a party house. I dont allow my daughter there. if we do go there which is maybe once every 2 months for 1/2hr or so, i take her, and we stay outside. He comes and visits her at my house 3 days a week. He looks after her at MY HOUSE when i work. He is not to be stoned when he comes over or i will ask him to leave. He is fine with it for the most part, but occassionly conflict does arise and he starts trying to accuse me of trying to cut him out of her life. I say stuff like "It is not a safe environment (at his house) for a child and it is our job as parents to protect her from anything that may cause her harm, you are a fantastic father and your only downfall is that you are willing to put your childs health at risk by allowing her in this environment" That usually makes him feel guilty i guess as he usually just says i know i am sorry it just hurts that i cant take her to my house. i tell him to get his own house with no smoking and drugs and then i will allow her to go. obviously this has not happened yet and i doubt it will! It is often hard for me to have to still hangout with my ex lots but for the most part we get on ok and really when it comes down to it it is not about me it is about my child and the health of my child is way more important to me then having to endure my ex for a few days!!
Hope it all works out well for you!

WOW! Are you serious that kids are smoking on the schoolbus?

In Calif., you'd be expelled from school for something serious like this.
I would think discretely talking to the bus driver would settle the issue. That driver may need to be reminded to watch the inside mirrors better!
If talking to the driver doesn't solve the problem, talk with either the vice principal or call the transportation dept. of the school.

I don't think people have an issue with spanking, its when spanking crosses the line into abuse. As for what you said about smoking I think many states have laws against smoking with a child in the car.

Learning how to meet responsibilities is one of the most important skills kids can acquire when they’re young. Certainly as they grow older, this learning will snowball and by the time they’re adults, they’ll have a thorough understanding of the relationship between responsibilities and accountability. Kids who don’t learn to meet responsibilities at an early age need to learn them at whatever age the parents get ready to teach it.

When a parent decides they’re going to start using more responsibility/accountability language when they talk with their kids, they should sit down and clearly state that fact. In a calm time, say to your kids individually, “From now on, I’m going to start to point out how we meet responsibilities around here. So, you’ll have a clearer idea of how many responsibilities I meet and why I think it’s important that you meet your responsibilities.”

With pre-teens and teens, you should have a discussion about why meeting responsibilities is important to your success in life. People who don’t meet their responsibilities are not successful. Now what does “not successful” mean? Well, for adults it could mean a range of things, but when you’re talking to a teenager or a middle school child, “not successful” means they’re not going to be able to afford an IPod. They’re not going to have their own car or have nice clothes. In other words, “All the things that I buy for you as a parent, you’re going to have to get for yourself someday. And in order to do that, you’re going to have to be able to meet responsibilities just like I do. And if I didn’t meet my responsibilities of going to work and doing a good job, I would not be able to give you those things.” Explain the idea with simple, straight talk that progresses from “This is why responsibilities are important” to “here’s what’s going to happen if you do—or if you don’t—achieve them.”

Well I'm 16, and honestly, you can always try to get them to stop, by taking away belongings, punishments, etc.

However, at the end of the day they're still going to do it, just because you said not too. But instead of just smoking, it may create a rocky relationship between you and your son/nephew.

Whatever shes thinking, its no good for you. Get out of there. Who knows what her deal is. My bet? Shes still hung up on the father of her kids.