Comments on: Kids and Problems With Smoking http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/ Protect our kids, save our children Thu, 21 Jan 2010 04:37:06 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: bigmikeyb245 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-612 bigmikeyb245 Sun, 29 Nov 2009 16:34:31 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-612 Whatever shes thinking, its no good for you. Get out of there. Who knows what her deal is. My bet? Shes still hung up on the father of her kids. Whatever shes thinking, its no good for you. Get out of there. Who knows what her deal is. My bet? Shes still hung up on the father of her kids.

]]> By: Gabriela V http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-614 Gabriela V Sun, 29 Nov 2009 16:22:37 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-614 Well I'm 16, and honestly, you can always try to get them to stop, by taking away belongings, punishments, etc. However, at the end of the day they're still going to do it, just because you said not too. But instead of just smoking, it may create a rocky relationship between you and your son/nephew. Well I'm 16, and honestly, you can always try to get them to stop, by taking away belongings, punishments, etc.

However, at the end of the day they're still going to do it, just because you said not too. But instead of just smoking, it may create a rocky relationship between you and your son/nephew.

]]> By: employer of many http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-610 employer of many Sun, 29 Nov 2009 14:33:47 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-610 Learning how to meet responsibilities is one of the most important skills kids can acquire when they’re young. Certainly as they grow older, this learning will snowball and by the time they’re adults, they’ll have a thorough understanding of the relationship between responsibilities and accountability. Kids who don’t learn to meet responsibilities at an early age need to learn them at whatever age the parents get ready to teach it. When a parent decides they’re going to start using more responsibility/accountability language when they talk with their kids, they should sit down and clearly state that fact. In a calm time, say to your kids individually, “From now on, I’m going to start to point out how we meet responsibilities around here. So, you’ll have a clearer idea of how many responsibilities I meet and why I think it’s important that you meet your responsibilities.” With pre-teens and teens, you should have a discussion about why meeting responsibilities is important to your success in life. People who don’t meet their responsibilities are not successful. Now what does “not successful” mean? Well, for adults it could mean a range of things, but when you’re talking to a teenager or a middle school child, “not successful” means they’re not going to be able to afford an IPod. They’re not going to have their own car or have nice clothes. In other words, “All the things that I buy for you as a parent, you’re going to have to get for yourself someday. And in order to do that, you’re going to have to be able to meet responsibilities just like I do. And if I didn’t meet my responsibilities of going to work and doing a good job, I would not be able to give you those things.” Explain the idea with simple, straight talk that progresses from “This is why responsibilities are important” to “here’s what’s going to happen if you do—or if you don’t—achieve them.” Learning how to meet responsibilities is one of the most important skills kids can acquire when they’re young. Certainly as they grow older, this learning will snowball and by the time they’re adults, they’ll have a thorough understanding of the relationship between responsibilities and accountability. Kids who don’t learn to meet responsibilities at an early age need to learn them at whatever age the parents get ready to teach it.

When a parent decides they’re going to start using more responsibility/accountability language when they talk with their kids, they should sit down and clearly state that fact. In a calm time, say to your kids individually, “From now on, I’m going to start to point out how we meet responsibilities around here. So, you’ll have a clearer idea of how many responsibilities I meet and why I think it’s important that you meet your responsibilities.”

With pre-teens and teens, you should have a discussion about why meeting responsibilities is important to your success in life. People who don’t meet their responsibilities are not successful. Now what does “not successful” mean? Well, for adults it could mean a range of things, but when you’re talking to a teenager or a middle school child, “not successful” means they’re not going to be able to afford an IPod. They’re not going to have their own car or have nice clothes. In other words, “All the things that I buy for you as a parent, you’re going to have to get for yourself someday. And in order to do that, you’re going to have to be able to meet responsibilities just like I do. And if I didn’t meet my responsibilities of going to work and doing a good job, I would not be able to give you those things.” Explain the idea with simple, straight talk that progresses from “This is why responsibilities are important” to “here’s what’s going to happen if you do—or if you don’t—achieve them.”

]]> By: badassbowtie177 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-600 badassbowtie177 Sun, 29 Nov 2009 14:21:15 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-600 I don't think people have an issue with spanking, its when spanking crosses the line into abuse. As for what you said about smoking I think many states have laws against smoking with a child in the car. I don't think people have an issue with spanking, its when spanking crosses the line into abuse. As for what you said about smoking I think many states have laws against smoking with a child in the car.

]]> By: JTEwv http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-611 JTEwv Sun, 29 Nov 2009 14:19:44 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-611 By: Tricia http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-615 Tricia Sun, 29 Nov 2009 12:02:16 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-615 WOW! Are you serious that kids are smoking on the schoolbus? In Calif., you'd be expelled from school for something serious like this. I would think discretely talking to the bus driver would settle the issue. That driver may need to be reminded to watch the inside mirrors better! If talking to the driver doesn't solve the problem, talk with either the vice principal or call the transportation dept. of the school. WOW! Are you serious that kids are smoking on the schoolbus?

In Calif., you'd be expelled from school for something serious like this.
I would think discretely talking to the bus driver would settle the issue. That driver may need to be reminded to watch the inside mirrors better!
If talking to the driver doesn't solve the problem, talk with either the vice principal or call the transportation dept. of the school.

]]> By: Lorie http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Lorie Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:40:55 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-609 Well i am in the same situation. Our daughter is 12months old. He lives with his dad (I have my own place). They smoke cigarettes in the house and pot, its a bit of a party house. I dont allow my daughter there. if we do go there which is maybe once every 2 months for 1/2hr or so, i take her, and we stay outside. He comes and visits her at my house 3 days a week. He looks after her at MY HOUSE when i work. He is not to be stoned when he comes over or i will ask him to leave. He is fine with it for the most part, but occassionly conflict does arise and he starts trying to accuse me of trying to cut him out of her life. I say stuff like "It is not a safe environment (at his house) for a child and it is our job as parents to protect her from anything that may cause her harm, you are a fantastic father and your only downfall is that you are willing to put your childs health at risk by allowing her in this environment" That usually makes him feel guilty i guess as he usually just says i know i am sorry it just hurts that i cant take her to my house. i tell him to get his own house with no smoking and drugs and then i will allow her to go. obviously this has not happened yet and i doubt it will! It is often hard for me to have to still hangout with my ex lots but for the most part we get on ok and really when it comes down to it it is not about me it is about my child and the health of my child is way more important to me then having to endure my ex for a few days!! Hope it all works out well for you! Well i am in the same situation. Our daughter is 12months old. He lives with his dad (I have my own place). They smoke cigarettes in the house and pot, its a bit of a party house. I dont allow my daughter there. if we do go there which is maybe once every 2 months for 1/2hr or so, i take her, and we stay outside. He comes and visits her at my house 3 days a week. He looks after her at MY HOUSE when i work. He is not to be stoned when he comes over or i will ask him to leave. He is fine with it for the most part, but occassionly conflict does arise and he starts trying to accuse me of trying to cut him out of her life. I say stuff like "It is not a safe environment (at his house) for a child and it is our job as parents to protect her from anything that may cause her harm, you are a fantastic father and your only downfall is that you are willing to put your childs health at risk by allowing her in this environment" That usually makes him feel guilty i guess as he usually just says i know i am sorry it just hurts that i cant take her to my house. i tell him to get his own house with no smoking and drugs and then i will allow her to go. obviously this has not happened yet and i doubt it will! It is often hard for me to have to still hangout with my ex lots but for the most part we get on ok and really when it comes down to it it is not about me it is about my child and the health of my child is way more important to me then having to endure my ex for a few days!!
Hope it all works out well for you!

]]> By: angelbaby http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-604 angelbaby Sun, 29 Nov 2009 05:35:33 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-604 Yeah... unfortunately, worse things than we had to deal with are becoming "second nature" for children at school nowadays. It's so sad, but devastatingly true. I think it stems from the whole situation that it seems children are just given "instant gratification" in today's generation, and therefore expect more (and expect to get away with more), without having to "pay for it" whether it be material things, or behavioral issues. I think with people's more "modern" views on discipline for children are just becoming more "accepting." I think people have to be really careful with giving children too many luxuries, and too many freedoms of choice. And, ultimately, I think that's where these behavioral problems come from. The more children push the envelope, the more others want to see how much they can get away with (for whatever personal reason for them that might be), and they just seem to get away with more... Or, at least that's my take on it. Yeah… unfortunately, worse things than we had to deal with are becoming "second nature" for children at school nowadays. It's so sad, but devastatingly true.

I think it stems from the whole situation that it seems children are just given "instant gratification" in today's generation, and therefore expect more (and expect to get away with more), without having to "pay for it" whether it be material things, or behavioral issues.

I think with people's more "modern" views on discipline for children are just becoming more "accepting." I think people have to be really careful with giving children too many luxuries, and too many freedoms of choice.

And, ultimately, I think that's where these behavioral problems come from. The more children push the envelope, the more others want to see how much they can get away with (for whatever personal reason for them that might be), and they just seem to get away with more…

Or, at least that's my take on it.

]]> By: biggbrian411 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-613 biggbrian411 Sat, 28 Nov 2009 20:53:07 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-613 No. Don't believe the lies. No. Don't believe the lies.

]]> By: * Magic http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/comment-page-1/#comment-601 * Magic Sat, 28 Nov 2009 03:40:49 +0000 http://www.protect-our-kids.org/kids-and-problems-with-smoking/#comment-601 This may sound brutal, but take her to the cancer ward of a hospital and let her see for herself what she is doing not only to herself but the passive smoking she is doing around her children, ask her is that what she wants for your kids, if not, then either smoke outside or not at all, I cared for my mother who died from lung cancer for over a year and its no picnic, then my father after he had open heart surgery and a stroke, its not funny at all and she needs to see what happens, both have passed on due to smoking, if that doesn't get her to stop, then nothing will! This may sound brutal, but take her to the cancer ward of a hospital and let her see for herself what she is doing not only to herself but the passive smoking she is doing around her children, ask her is that what she wants for your kids, if not, then either smoke outside or not at all, I cared for my mother who died from lung cancer for over a year and its no picnic, then my father after he had open heart surgery and a stroke, its not funny at all and she needs to see what happens, both have passed on due to smoking, if that doesn't get her to stop, then nothing will!

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