As parents, we must be very thankful if we have a perfectly healthy baby. However, nowadays, we can find so many parents who are blessed with the special needs babies or children. We should never ever see it as a curse, but a bless from God because those parents are carrying a graceful duty. We should admit that taking care of babies or children with special needs more attention and patience. Here are so tips that hopefully make parents get stronger and be better parents.

The first thing we need to have is parent coordination and family support. On special needs parenting, there should be a tight cooperation and solidity between father and mother. They will face a harder work than other parents, so they should work as a strong team. The second thing that most parents forget is contracting the related organization. The organization such as one for children’s deaf is very beneficial because parents can share information including medical information and social treatment information.

The third thing parents have to do is providing the special need children with complete accommodation such as tools or special school. Even though the children are able to enter the regular school, but extra accommodation might be needed.

Each parent is using their own technique on the parenting, but I often find so many parents that have one wrong similarity: giving a bribe to their children. For example, when a child does not want to go neat his toys, mother will try to tell him to neat his toys over and over without any result, on the other side, the child will only assume that his mother is very talkative. Seeing the situation, father tells the child to neat his toys and father will give him a dollar. The child neat his toys directly without waiting too long.

Such technique might work effectively, but unfortunately the parents build a bad character to the child. If such thing becomes a habit, then the child will ask material value on everything they do. The character can stick to them even though he has become a grown up person. The bribe is giving a negative effect for the children, so it will be better if we are not using such method any longer.

Now the question is, how can we handle such situation? Such as telling the child to neat his toys, or eat the vegetables on the plate? Instead of bribing, it will be better if we treat them like adult and give them the understanding of how important and beneficial vegetables for our body or how important respecting our toys by put them on the shelf.

Babies and children are so sensitive to various germs and bacteria. Therefore, it is our duty as parents to make everything as hygiene as possible. Keeping the hygiene is not always mean using gallons of alcohol; some germs can be handled by using hot water or soap. Here are some tips that we can apply in our daily life with the children.

Some of us are only using baby wipes when we are replacing the baby’s diaper. Well, the baby wipes might look effective on cleaning our hand or baby’s skin, but the germs remains. To rid the germs away, we can wash our hands and baby’s skin with hot water and soap. If it is too complicated, then antiseptic liquid like gel or tissue with alcohol or antiseptic can be a good choice.

What we are going to do might seem too much, but we have to wash the bottle or pacifier that dropped on the floor or table even though it only touches the floor for about several seconds. In brief, to avoid germs, we have to keep whatever thing around our children clean. For the whole house, make sure that we vacuum all of the rugs, curtain or sofa to avoid dust, and mop the floor every day.

On parenting, we have to realize that today’s children are so much smarter than the old time children. Of course, since they are very different and smarter, we cannot apply the old parenting methods our parents applied on us back then because it will be useless. Here are some “right”, but actually “wrong” ways on parenting.

Today’s children have a critical thinking and they can talk back to us. What most parents do when facing such situation is treating them and giving a “white lie” such as “if you are not going to bed, I will call Dr. Jekyll and Frankenstein” such treat and lies might work, but it gives a minor traumatic for the children. The best way to handle the situation is talking seriously and gives a critical punishment.

Another wrong parenting is by shouting to our children. Well, as adult, we might not be able to handle our emotion, but when we are facing our children controlling our emotion is a mandatory thing. We might think that the children will be afraid of our shout, but actually we are in the process of giving a permanent wound for them. Some children are giving different response by adapting parents’ emotions to their character. Therefore, we can find rough children that adapt the character from their parents. None of us wants to make our children like that.

If you just experienced your beloved children losing their control, give a good example for them by demonstrating healthy ways to react to situations that can make them depressed. No matter how difficult it is, keep trying not to scream when you’re disciplining your children. Instead, try to clear and focus on the problem.

When your child has calmed down, stay calm and explain that yelling, cursing, and slamming doors are unacceptable behaviors and there are consequences – then explain the consequences. Your actions can show that anger is not the correct way for children to ask for something. If your child is angry at the department store, once you have just explained why you do not want to buy candy for her, do not despair – this shows that anger is something that is not acceptable and is not effective for them to do.

Consider talking with your child’s teacher about classroom arrangement and proper behavior which is expected. Try to remember your own actions, whether you are overcoming as well as possible about the situation which is depressing. If not, you may want to ask your doctor whether family counseling is necessary for your beloved family.