They are like a blank piece of paper, that every single word that written on them will absorbed perfectly. So there is no tolerance to give them wrong parenting, harsh attitude, or bad words, because they will record it hundred percent in their memory and imitate it in their attitude. It is every parent’s responsibility to nurse and educate them right and properly according to their age with love and care.

If children done any bad attitude, parents are not allowed to get mad. Parents must give explanation why children should not do that mistake. But if children keep on repeating that bad attitude, parents should give a stronger emphasis on their explanation and give punishment that can make them deterred from doing that bad attitude.

If children done any good attitude, don’t delay to give them rewards, and give them present once in a while. Rewards and presents can become their motivation and their pride to do more good and valuable attitudes.

Teach your children responsibility. For example after they eat food, they should throw the rubbish into the trash basket. Or when they finish play with their toys, teach them to clean and settle all the toys back into the toy box.

Teach your children to love reading the books. Books are like window of outer world. From reading many books they will get much knowledge that not obtainable from parents or other sources. Starting to read them book before go to bed, and set the schedule to read book every day. For example reading book should be done every day at afternoon. This routine habit can grow them love to read books.

Limit the time to watch television, because this thing can give them many invaluable knowledge and information. It is not recommended to watch television in long time in a day, because this will decrease the capability to concentrate and will make them become inpatient personality. Television consist of millions of motion pictures, this actually can disturb their concentration and make them inpatient. One to two hours a day to watch the television is sufficient.

Teach your children to say those golden words, such as “I am sorry” if they done anything wrong; “Thank you” if they are given any things or any help from someone; and “Please” if they need any help from anyone. These words will make them realize the important meaning to respect others.

Children are like pearl in the deep ocean. Their hearts are so pure but shining and their mind are naïf but honest. To care and love children will need much energy, patient, cost and time. Actually those things are like investment, because parents will take the harvest in the future, maybe ten to twenty years later. If parents teach them right things today, children will grow as people with good personalities in the future.

The good habits that parents can give to their children are like: the table manner. Teach them to eat in good manner. First, teach them the prayer before eating. Then they can start to take the nearest food from them. If the food is far from them, tell them to ask help from other people to pass it. They should eat not too slow but not too fast. They should not speak while eating. They should eat without any sound of chewing. And they should finish their food. Explain the beneficial of vegetables and fruits and support them to eat those foods, beside rice or bread and proteins. Explain them about the bad effect of junk foods, which are poor from nutrition and fibers.

Teach the children to wear polite clothes. Especially for girls, do not give your children with cloth that have minimum designs, such as miniskirts, tank top, sleeveless shirt, hot pants or tight clothes. For boys are more flexible. Because if polite clothing is not controlled by parents, children will understand that shorts clothes are okay and they will use them until they grow adults. In fact, those short clothes are one from much stimulation from bad guys to do the rapes. We should protect our children since they were young.

Teach them good and right personality. For example, teach them about humble life. Teach them to life not in glamorous live, such as parties; spend so much money only for foods, clothes, shoes and other things. It is essential to teach them humble life so that they can feel the empathy to other poor people; this will encourage them to be generous to other people. Give them explanation that all people are the same, and all deserve to be respected, whether they are poor or rich people.

Teach them to be dependence. For example they can eat, drink, and take a bath by them selves. This is to make them more able to manage their own lives little by little.

Every child is gifted with varieties of abilities. But parents will not know about what kind of talents do their children have if parents never give the opportunity for children to try varieties of activities. And actually talents are only 5 percent, and the rest of 95% is about exercising. This is applicable to any activities. So to optimize their physics and psychology, parents should give children the chance to try several activities.

Give the children chance to play music. Music will stimulate the right brain, which can indirectly increase their academic ability. Playing piano, guitar, harmonica, drum and violin are few from many instruments. By playing music they can learn about rhythm and tempo. This is good to stimulate their cognitive. They are able join a music course in music learning center, or call for music teacher at home. This can make them play the music better.

Generally, children have high curiosity about everything. This is a very good chance to fulfill their curiosity with many kinds of knowledge and information. Answer their questions in logical way according to their understanding level. Give them books to read. This is to motivate them to learn more about many things in this world. The more they learn and read, the smarter they will be. And smart people are good for their life in the future. Topics that good for children are like: science, history, religion, flora and fauna, transportation, legendary story, epic story and others.

Invite children to do sports regularly, the frequency is at least once in a week. For example invite them to swim, jogging, walking, or play badminton, football, basketball, ride bicycle or inline skate. These activities will give them more healthy and strong body. Besides it will give them the skill to play one of those sports branches, by doing sports children will feel fresher and entertained.

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As parents, we must be very thankful if we have a perfectly healthy baby. However, nowadays, we can find so many parents who are blessed with the special needs babies or children. We should never ever see it as a curse, but a bless from God because those parents are carrying a graceful duty. We should admit that taking care of babies or children with special needs more attention and patience. Here are so tips that hopefully make parents get stronger and be better parents.

The first thing we need to have is parent coordination and family support. On special needs parenting, there should be a tight cooperation and solidity between father and mother. They will face a harder work than other parents, so they should work as a strong team. The second thing that most parents forget is contracting the related organization. The organization such as one for children’s deaf is very beneficial because parents can share information including medical information and social treatment information.

The third thing parents have to do is providing the special need children with complete accommodation such as tools or special school. Even though the children are able to enter the regular school, but extra accommodation might be needed.

Each parent is using their own technique on the parenting, but I often find so many parents that have one wrong similarity: giving a bribe to their children. For example, when a child does not want to go neat his toys, mother will try to tell him to neat his toys over and over without any result, on the other side, the child will only assume that his mother is very talkative. Seeing the situation, father tells the child to neat his toys and father will give him a dollar. The child neat his toys directly without waiting too long.

Such technique might work effectively, but unfortunately the parents build a bad character to the child. If such thing becomes a habit, then the child will ask material value on everything they do. The character can stick to them even though he has become a grown up person. The bribe is giving a negative effect for the children, so it will be better if we are not using such method any longer.

Now the question is, how can we handle such situation? Such as telling the child to neat his toys, or eat the vegetables on the plate? Instead of bribing, it will be better if we treat them like adult and give them the understanding of how important and beneficial vegetables for our body or how important respecting our toys by put them on the shelf.